Also, about the standards you speak of – i think everyone is guilty of that.

None of us truly know what to look for because if you think about it, we can all love a person unconditionally if we choose to but the question is if we will be loved back the same and i wish we were allowed to talk about that instead of hobbies. I have seen hollywood movies where one person says they are not looking for anything serious up front – if that happens in real life – i envy you. A lot of men are forced into marriage here, and that is my biggest fear – what if he does not really want to do this – there is no way they will tell you that. And you can imagine what someone like that will look for – someone good looking, smart, etc to fit society’s standard as he will be defined by her. I am ashamed to admit but i have stooped pretty low too – judging people for their looks and what not – simply because this is a process for the brain and not the heart.