Dear Jay:

Interesting development, your former friend leaving the man. You did predict it. Are you in contact with him now… or with her, if you’d like to share. I don’t have to know…

You wrote: “My sister.. is the worst kind of bully. A master manipulator. And nothing is ever her fault. My mother used to be the same, and years ago, both mother and sister would turn on me”-

– reads like they deserve each other living together, your sister calling the shots, doesn’t it?

I mean, if your mother wants her there then I suppose she should have her there. Best you can do for yourself is go the legal route, do whatever is legally wise to do.

What a shame that both of them have been/ are manipulative and untrustworthy, both your mother and your sister… and your friend who was like a sister to you. Unfortunately, betrayal is quite common in families. I wish it wasn’t your experience, or mine.

How different was your grandmother, I wonder. What was she like.

anita