Hi Lukey,

If you’re going to go into your girlfriend’s house, then you’re going to have to engage with the mother. Once a week, no more, no less, say, “I’d love to hear all about it, walk to the mail/around the block with us/let’s have a coffee”. Then she is at least out of the house!

If she wants to literally say, “That’s OK, I’ll just sit here alone in the dark”, LET HER. Drop the girlfriend off at the door.

And one thing about time: To a younger person, four years is a lifetime. To an older person, four years is like a blink of an eye. To her, the divorce JUST HAPPENED. Four years to her is like only four months to you.

Best,

Inky