Dear Anita,
You are so right! I do live in fear of my sister.
That’s why I try to avoid questioning her actions and motives – to keep the peace – and that’s why we have arrived at the situation we have now.
The situation we have now is because I have joint legal and moral responsibilities for my mother’s welfare and financial affairs, and my sister doesn’t like me having equal rights in this regard. But I could get into serious legal trouble in the future if I don’t point out what she is doing. It actually makes no difference if I do.
To be very honest, I think I should have turned my back on her years ago, decades ago. I wasn’t able to stand up to her like that. And I find that I cannot do it now either!
You are right on the other point also, regarding my children. I do have good relationships with all three of my children, who are all adults. (I have grandchildren as well). They would stand behind me if I needed them to.
It’s only because I can no longer ‘put up and shut up’ with this situation that I am seeking legal advice.
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