Dear Gautam,

Regarding validating yourself – have you tried making a list of all the things you like about yourself? All your good points? For example, you seem sensitive and thoughtful. Perhaps you are also funny and good at something like sport, or can make great conversation ? Perhaps you are a loyal friend or great at your job ?

We all face potential rejection –  by would-be friends or lovers, sometimes by family, by colleagues  – we can’t be everyone’s ‘cup of tea’ but if you like yourself and keep an open heart you stand a much better chance of building happy reciprocal relationships.

We all need love but even more perhaps we all the need the opportunity to give love. You can give love to friends, neighbours, people in need, to the environment around you. Hopefully romantic love will also come your way.

Best wishes,

Jaquetta.