I tried to suggest that. He refused and said she is a huge part of his life now and whats her around his son. My boyfriend and I i just recently introduced him after things started to get serious. I wanted my ex to meet him before my son ever did and he simply stated he doesn’t care. I waited another month before introducing my son to him and they only been around each other for maybe handful of times if that. I want my dating life private from my son unless things are Getting serious. My boyfriend wont move in unless we are married. That is my ground rule. We met each others family prior to him meeting my son. As for my ex. I have no idea he is secretive. He doesn’t tell me anythimg regarding her. He keeps me in the dark. Which I understand however we have a son. We should be communicating. I don’t want to jnow their relationship details. That is none of my business. I do know somethings that my son tells me. And my ex seems to think i question him. I never do he just tells me. I ask him how his time was with his dad and ge tells me everything that he did.  I asked my ex for more communication and that we need to be good team mates when it comes to raising our son. That we need to be on the same page. My boyfriend is considered only mommys friend. We do not show any type of affection in front of him or around him. I set ground rules for my boyfriend and I. No sleep overs when i have my son. As for my ex i asked for the same thing and he just said ok. I have to trust him that he’s following those guidelines. And of course she is refusing to sit and have a talk with all 3 of us. I even said my boyfriend could come so that way all 4 of us could make sure we are on the same page. It is just frustrating. I am not out to hurt her. I have grown past my anger and learned how to heal and grow from mine and my exs relationship. I learned to deal without the closure i wanted. I may just message her personally instead of letting my ex do the communication. Maybe include him in like a group text or something so again he is involved. I have a gut feeling he isn’t really asking her too. I don’t know for sure, but I think he has been lying to us both. I think it all stems for when they started seeing each other when my ex and I were together. I feel like he is afraid I am going to say that we were together the whole time they were. I don’t know thats just how it seems. He is really sketchy when i try to ask if I can get to know her. I have tried telling him that my intentions are not to bring up anything from the past. And i have tried to reassure both of them that we all can be friendly. I dont want this to get ugly. I just want to know the people around him. I would never just let my son go off with a stranger. And that is exactly who she is to me.