Welcome Elaine,

I got divorced when I was in my mid-40s.  I read that is one of the keys to happiness is having close relationships.  The other things I do for happiness is having a daily gratitude and meditation practice.  My children were 8 and 12 when I divorced and they are now 26 and 30 and live close by.  I am close to them but don’t see them too frequently because they have their own adult lives.

I worked hard to create a circle of good friends.  I am an INFJ so I’m a “social” introvert.  I don’t do clubs on a regular basis or church.   I dove in going to Meetups for activities that I would enjoy regardless if I met anyone or not.

I am not sure what you mean by feeling lost and hurting.  I get feeling lonely but not sure what you mean about the other feelings.  I can understand when you are feeling that way then approaching strangers for emotional sustenance and support would scare them away.

I also volunteered where I would be scheduled to do something with people weekly.  That way they get to know me and me with them. That way I get to get out of myself and help others.  I would recommend that.

I am not sure by what you said on stopping therapy because you are feeling indifferent.  I would think that would be a topic to explore with your therapist.  What about the issues of feeling lost and hurting?  Can’t you deal with that with your therapist?

What do you think about what I said?

Mark