Kat

It sounds like you have a hard time prioritizing your time and effort.  What do you consider the most important?  The least?  Are you spending your time that way?  You say you try to do the “right” thing but make sure that they are aligned not only with your values (not your parents) but also how it fits within your prioritized time schedule.  It may be that you have an overload of “right” things to do and not enough time to do them.  Once you can manage your time and priorities then you will be able to deal with stress better.

You say how hard it is to live under your parents’ roof.  You say that it is preventing you from living life and having your own identity.  You say that is partially because you are Asian American.  All that is quite understandable.  Right now you are living with them and going to school.  Right now you can defer your identity angst by focusing on finishing your schooling and moving out.  THEN you be on your own and explore  the world and figure out who you are.

I’m a 3rd generation Japanese American so I can identify with you and not quite feeling that I fit in.  That is very common.

Mark

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