Dear Hurting:

I agree with what Julie’s best friend sent you in  a message:  “The best thing is to leave her and give her time… I know putting any pressure on her is going to back her into a corner”.

Julie doesn’t need pressure, or any more distress to add to her very distressing life.

A key sentence regarding your state of mind: “my anxiety.. is playing nasty tricks on my mind. I find myself not being able to eat properly, sleep properly and I can’t concentrate at work  without crying; which as a paramedic isn’t good”-

– I think you should see a capable psychotherapist as soon as possible so to figure out ways to lower your anxiety, resolve the relationship with Julie (and with your estranged or ex wife, if it wasn’t resolved yet). Maybe you should take a break from work so to get better before you return to work as a paramedic.

anita