Dear Samantha:

You wrote that you had “a good childhood, great parents and a loving extended family” and yet you were told your whole life, since you were a child, I suppose, that you are “too sensitive.. worry too much.. need to grow a thicker skin”-

– as a child, with a good childhood, good parents, a loving extended family, you don’t need a thicker skin, not inside the home, not when interacting with your great parents and loving extended parents, correct?

In other words, were you told by your parents that you were too sensitive to them?

“I had a tough time finding my tribe”- wasn’t your tribe your parents and extended family?

“I still get crap from my family to this day about my ‘shyness’ although its introversion not shyness.. it gets aggravated feeling like I constantly have to explain myself”-

-but how is it possible, that a loving family is giving you crap? Love and crap don’t go together!

And why is it so difficult to understand you, so difficult that you have to constantly explain yourself. It is not that you are a weird specimen from outer space who transplanted herself into a human family. I bet I can understand you in a few pages right here, on your thread!

You wrote in your original post: “My main question is, is it horrible for me to want there to be something wrong with me?”

– my goodness, maybe there is nothing wrong with you. Maybe the wrong is … not with you. Is it possible?

anita