Dear ndcooper22:

“I missed out on a college experience” and so did I and a lot of people,  missing out on what the college experience is supposed to be, what we see in movies and what we hear people share about when they are in a good mood, the parties, I suppose, getting drunk, that is always in the mix of college stories, isn’t it?

But even the people telling these happy experiences, were not so happy when those experiences were actually happening- lots of retroactive-good-times that weren’t so good when happening.

“and now I might be missing out on love because I am so damaged”-

– lots of healing is available for damaged people, just as it is available for other damaged animals and plants, life finds a way. As humans we have a say about finding that way, finding alternative ways, experimenting with this way or that way.

Tell me about the shame, when did that begin to be your experience, how long before college?

anita