Dear Anita,

Good morning. Wonderful point that is new to me, I was racing to be overwhelmed first, as to take away this feeling from my mother.  Oh how many examples come to my mind now that you put it that way!

Your Social Super CC role was born out of your need to prevent your mother from getting distressed and overwhelmed by becoming distressed and overwhelmed yourself and doing what is needed to prevent that from happening to her

yes, and so now even though mother isn’t around, she is lurking in the shadows, the mother voice. “over-attending” to my sister even when not asked for still comes as that practice pattern.  Let’s make sure she is fine, extra fine, so that mother doesnt worry.

i know that will take practice.  I also know that I have had enough challenges in July thus far, starting from the horrific wife coming over, to the London cousin event.  I have had my work cut out for me thus far in July in regards to outer people and inner circle.

How often we take away from our own ability to do something by repeatedly self-sabotaging.  I won’t blame myself entirely, as my entire distress and “overwhelmingness” comes from my mother feeling this way – and then I taking on that role.

I have done a good job of keeping distance since I’ve returned from my trip.  Not attending to others.  My sister’s example came to mind this weekend when I spent a few hours with her.

My husband mentioned the following day, that he notices progress in my sister – but still finds that he doesn’t like the person I “turn into” around her – like a master entertainer who can’t sit still and relax.

I took it to heart this time, seeing to it that all of July has given me many examples of triggers..