Hi Angele,

I am really concerned about the content of your reply to Chloe – particularly the part where she blames/hates herself and is projecting her hatred on to him.  How can this possibly be true when he is the one that has embarked upon an affair?  What did he expect when he was found out other than to be met with anger from his wife?

Nobody is perfect – not your daughter and not your son-in-law.  There are faults on both sides and maybe your daughter will begin to realize that now things are being brought to a head.  It may be a hard lesson to learn but from what you say he has begun to steel their joint assets.  There is only one person your son-in-law is looking after and that’s himself.  The faults of this person who wants your daughter to believe he is perfect – he’s a liar, he’s a cheat, he’s a thief.  As for attending sessions with her, implying that he cares (who is he trying to kid), I’m pretty sure that his new love interest won’t be too keen on that idea – she’ll most likely want him to have as little to do with your daughter as possible.

I hope the counselling helps your daughter.  She really needs to learn to love herself and to do that she needs to stop focusing on her faults and start focusing on her good points.  Perhaps you can help her with that.

Best wishes

Peggy