Peggy,

Thank you that makes sense. But also I just want to clear up that the guy isn’t my male cousin lol. I just know him from high school. It was probably hard to understand what I meant because I keep saying “cousin cousin cousin” and I probably wasn’t writing things correctly haha. But yeah, what you’re saying makes sense. You are saying that he liked me at the time, but that time is in the past. And I do understand that it is in the past, but one of the things that hurt me over this situation is that the guy just made it seem like he never liked me. I felt super delusional afterwards. I was thinking “am I delusional? I didn’t think I was… and I don’t think I am… but the only logical explanation for why my ex would flirt with my cousin is because he never liked me. But I thought he did. But I guess not if he could do this”. I just felt stupid. And embarrassed in front of everyone who knew how much I used to like him.

And yeah, maybe he was hitting on my cousin because he isn’t over me. Maybe. If that is true, I feel a little bit less stupid. Like, maybe he did like me in the past and he’s doing something so inappropriate like this to get to me. It worked. But i guess I will never know his true intentions on why he flirted with my cousin.

And when I said “having a boyfriend doesn’t stop anyone nowadays” I was trying to rationalize why he would flirt with my cousin if he wasn’t over me. I thought “maybe he flirted with my cousin because he knows he can’t have me as I have a boyfriend” but I feel like most guys don’t care if you have a boyfriend. They will still try to talk to you. I know my (current) boyfriend is loyal. Sorry if my story is confusing. There are so many details and I was just rambling when I wrote everything. So sorry for the confusion but your replies have helped me understand my emotions a lot. Thank you.