Dear Karina:

“As a child my Mom (who did her best) was quick to point out all my flaws, often dubbed me selfish or bad and really made me feel like a horrible person”-

It will help you when at one point, you will see that when a mother makes her child feel like a horrible person, she is not doing her best.

To no longer believe that your mother was right when she dubbed you selfish or bad, you have to believe that she didn’t do good by you (“did her best”) but instead, she did bad by you.

anita