Thank you anita and mark. I’ve been telling him we need to go to counseling. He thinks counseling is b.s. Yet he cant quit crying. When I told him I wanted him out, he got on his knees and grabbed my legs and sobbed.

It gets more idiotic. We work for the same company. We aren’t in the same department,  but avoiding him would be next to impossible. Hes been in my office sobbing several times. Yes, I should have stuck to my original plan of not getting involved. He was convincing. She had been moved out for almost 3 months before the legal separation.so it had been over 7 months of her not living with him before I started seeing him. And that it had been bad with the fighting for yrs, and they havent spent the last2 Christmas’s together. So I was told it was only a technicality at that point. And the reason the separation has been stretched out so long was so she could keep insurance since she didnt work and has health problems. She told me that’s just what they do, but always find their way back to each other.

One day I’m fine, the next I cant stand the sight of him. We go out and have a great time, the next day I’m a total hag to him. I’ve been through yrs of therapy because of the crap my ex put me thru. It sounds absolutely ridiculous, but at least when I got knocked around, it was upfront. Literally in my face. But this kind of betrayal is different, its sneaky and in order to get past it you have to have faith it wont happen again. I was happy those years after my divorce, being by myself, but after 5 yrs of being alone, I guess I finally gave in. I had been asked out by many, went out on dates with a few, but never allowed it to go anywhere. Na, I had to wait until a trainwreck caught my eye. Like I said I feel like a dumba$$.