Hey Aster,

First of all, my advice is to have compassion for yourself. Not many of us can say that we haven’t gotten caught up in a romantic relationship that wasn’t in our best interest. And it’s absolutely understandable that it’s hard to shut off feelings.

That being said,  he made a huge mistake. If he isn’t willing to go to whatever lengths necessary to rectify things (ie going to counseling) or puts the burden on you to get over when he is the one that messed up, I wonder how sorry he really is… I think counseling is a great idea. He has to change something otherwise he will cheat again. It’s ok to hold him accountable. But I also suggest you take this advice with a grain of salt. You know what’s best for YOU. We hope you act on it. Best wishes through this tough time.