Dear Anita,

got it. I have to step away from the computer for about two hours, but when I come back I actually want to do some exercises in practicing communicating authentic emotions but in a calm way. Assertive communication as you say is this – speaking truth but not frenzied. Perhaps we can make some sort of exercise. I have something in mind. I think that if I practice this in writing for things that are happening currently etc, I will be able to do a better job in the future when it is spontaneous and unexpected as distress can be.