Dear Nichole:

Welcome back! I am glad you started a new thread.

“What will my life be now?”- my answer is: looking for love in all the right places (vs looking for love in all the wrong places as the song says).

In the past you looked for love in the wrong places. For many of us the wrong place to look for love is…alas- our families!  Our families are supposed to be where love is, but isn’t it a tragedy, for so many of us, that love is not there.

You grew up with very little love, your parents having been occupied with other things, other priorities. You carry with you not only a desire to experience love, to love and be loved, but also anger at not having been loved as a child, and onward. This anger is in the way of you finding love..  where love is available for you, a new man in your life, a new relationship.

Perhaps your anger is in your way of making friends as well.

I know you spent a lot of money on hotels and such before you moved in to your new place and you had to furnish your new place. I hope you are saving money now and that you are not planning on spending it on .. a trip to Arizona, let’s say (it is where your older brother lives if I remember correctly).

What I do hope you do with any money that you are able to save at this point, is to use it for quality psychotherapy, or counseling, so to express and understand your anger, for the purpose of moving toward what you always needed and wanted- to love and be loved in return.

anita