Dear Lindsey:

I wish you didn’t leave the counseling session more anxious than when you went in. Regarding K’s no expectations comment, whether he meant it regarding going from friends to more, or regarding just friendship- and you feeling anxious thinking he may have meant that you should have no  expectations for a friendship with him-

– that ignited your separation anxiety, the old separation anxiety from your mother, when you found yourself alone, too soon and you needed her so intensely.

If you remember how it felt then, separated and rejected by your mother, then you can say to yourself: this anxiety about K is an activation of my anxiety regarding my mother, long ago.

Place  your anxiety where it belongs- in the there and then (the past)- and you will free your life here and now (the present) from same anxiety.

– by the way, it is indeed easier said than done, lol.

How are you feeling this Friday morning?

anita