Dear Anita,

when we are primed to be hostile toward others, we are also primed to be hostile toward ourselves

A round of applause for this.  This could be the theme of an entire novel, this time you are the author!

Suffering doesn’t allow us to become better people.  Just like in the prison system it isn’t punishment that allows a prisoner to be released and become a new/better individual.  It it is rehabilitation.  In our cases, our healing is our rehabilitation.

We don’t deserve to suffer.  We don’t have to be hostile to our own selves.  And slowly we will lose that hostility towards the world.  This will allow us to fill our hearts with space, peace and love.  That is the true joy of living.