Dear Anita,

Round of applause to us both.

Baseline hostility towards ourselves, first and most importantly.  Which is often reflected onto the world.

I know for myself, disengaging from anything frivolous will help, is helping.  I know that may not sound intuitive, but when I over bombard my head with more and more that is not needed – I can sense hostility and resentment build up.  An example I used is the text S was sending me yesterday.  Not worth my mental space to engage in.  So I didn’t.  It isn’t innate, but over time It will be second nature – as it is for many of the people around me that I deem mature and grounded – to have a good threshold to not engage in what is unnecessary.

I wonder what is helping you with baseline hostility.  Not to say that I personally think you are this way, I likely do not know.  But you mentioned it so I was wondering.

Enjoy your coffee this morning.  I enjoyed some Early Grey, extra milky!