Hi Natalija,

I don’t know how your boyfriend is supposed to get past hurting whilst he is still living in the house with his wife.  The children are old enough to know that their parents are sleeping in separate bedrooms.  This is just prolonging the agony of separation for all concerned.  The children will pick up on the atmosphere of home life and ultimately it will be detrimental for them.

Your boyfriend is suffering from anxiety which is making a sexual relationship difficult.  I suggest he starts practising ways to reduce his anxiety levels and find somewhere new to live.  If he doesn’t accept this as a way forward, then give some serious thought as to whether you want to be the one standing on the side lines waiting for time to pass and changes to happen.

Best Wishes

Peggy