Dear Marge:

You wrote that your friend’s boyfriend “seems to have a lot of red flags”. That he is a “blue collar worker” is not a red flag, that he is unemployed at the moment, it may not be a character flaw but the nature of his industry and factors beyond his control, and he may be earnestly looking for employment. That he is “somewhat of a party guy that drinks a lot”- I don’t know what it means. Some  people think that drinking a glass of wine ever day is too much to drink. For other people it is a daily part of lunch, or dinner.

Regarding how to me more supportive of your pregnant friend- because she is so happy being pregnant, be happy with her, share her excitement, help her prepare for the arrival of her baby. As far as the father of her baby, share her excitement over the positive things he does for her and for his child. Be as optimistic as you can be. Maybe things will turn out well for her!

anita