Dear Anita,

Thank you – and yes the coffee is just what we need this morning.

Also, in regards to my sister – something interesting.

She texted me this morning and asked “is everything okay?”

During this past week of back and forth with my husband – I haven’t communicated with her as much as I am preserving my neurons for the work that is in front of me.

It occurred to me what you said some while back: “if people don’t notice a change – you aren’t doing it hard enough” (something of that sort)

The old me would jump to correct the person if they felt a shift or change: I would apologize and say oh no sorry for not being around, or this or that.  I would then over compensate.

I did not.  I will not.

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I notice that I think of SD as a place for a fresh start – but in fact you can live any life you want anywhere – with strong boundaries in tact.