Dear Anita,

Thank you for your post, full of so many important points.

1- It is childhood and it is her.  Just like it is childhood and it is me.  It is childhood and the person.  BUT it is up to the adult, to be aware of their actions and continue either the same way, or not.  That is the true meaning of healing and seeking a better life.  And very few can do it.  It makes even more sense to me now why so few can stick to the path.  It is not just the path, but old “sickness” trying to drag you down off of it, even if it is truly not on “purpose.”

To remain on the path is to – remain on it.  Not feel guilt for not continuing on the dirt road below.  Not feeling undeserving of the cobblestone path that is more solitary.  Nope.  This path is the right one, and it is mine.

2 – Yes, I will take time with this, and of course it is a work in progress.  Thank you for reminding me this.

3- I read your addition.  Interesting.  I think she figured that you didn’t like her, or something of that sort.  We didn’t speak about that much.  Then you on your own felt that you had perhaps been to harsh or judgmental of her, and wanted to give it another try.  At this time you felt that her manner of communicating wasn’t a win-win.

It makes sense.  And I am not hear to go through scenario, but as an older sister I look back at all the countless relationships she has had that have had many similar trajectories.

Lastly, I would like to read what more you have to say – as you mentioned.  Of course, when you have time.