Dear Anita,

Don’t worry you did not rush me, this is actually what you did. Quite the contrary. Oh how excited I am to explain this to you!

You became triggered/impassioned by the concept of borderline personality disorder. It Reminded you of your own mother, and erratic behavior iin your own past life in your own self even! It made you have a bad feeling in your stomach, you thought to yourself, get away, get away CC My dear friend on the journey. You care for me and so you thought to yourself, get away from these borderline people who only drag you down. Oh gosh they drag you down. Even your sister does ah what a revelation!!!
This is what happened, and this is how I would react as well if it were you. This is because you care about me. But there’s something else….

After all was said and done after all we decided today, after all we realized. You sent one last message, saying that you rushed me. 800 and vulnerable message is full of honesty, feeling that you did not want to come off this way. Oh Anita this is it!!

this is how I know that you are not a borderline person, and that is how I know I am not. WE communicate like this. WE DO. This is why WE work. This is why we do not work with mother sister etc etc.
you have understanding of how you come off to other people, you have empathy, you have curiosity, and most of all, you have awareness. None of the following people would have sent the following message to me, my sister, my mother, or your mother, or either of us in the past.

We would have been so caught up in our emotional brains, the hysteria, our worlds buzzing around, so self focused. Unable to look outside of oneself because sooo bogged down by ones own distress.
This is not a judgment of any of these behaviors of anyone in the entire world. It is fact. It is pathology and it is fact.

this is how I know you are on the other side Anita.
and so am I. We can not relate to borderline people and they will only harm us.

oh dear Anita. We can conquer anything you and I. Oh yes we can my dear friend.