Hi Anita, indeed it does sound right. He can be a really nice person and fun to be around, as long as things are his way. So I suppose I try to create this atmosphere because then I actually like being around him. Now however with that gone (I  mean we live separately), why don’t I just complete the separation with divorce.. I always seem to wait for him to do that. To leave me, to move away, to divorce me… I really dislike myself for doing that yet I just keep at it. I guess that too is to avoid any negative reaction I might get if I do it myself. I believe in “for better or worse” but does that mean I just have to be happy with whatever? I tried to talk to him about some of the stuff in the past but have been told “that’s just the way I am” and also then at therapist he said I was very demanding. I really don’t think I am demanding but always question myself after a statement like that whilst he never seems to reflect on himself. I wish I could be a little more like that.