Dear rockegirl:

Your boyfriend is afraid to feel and to express “weak emotions” because he is afraid people will take advantage of him or hurt him otherwise when he is weak. Probably because it already happened. And it happens, people hurting other people every day.

So don’t hurt him, don’t hurt his feelings, make your relationship a safe place for him and for you. Within that safe place he may relax over time and not be afraid that you will hurt him when he feels those soft but strong emotions of affection, longing, need, attachment.

anita