Dear sloppy_dreams:

The two  of you were good friends, then the two of you hooked up, sometime during the hook up relationship, she told you that she was just having fun and didn’t aim at a love/ girlfriends relationship with you. She asked if you felt the same, you lied and said yes, that you feel the same because you “didn’t want to lose her”- lose her as a sex partner, and hopefully a future girlfriend-

– was that your hope, that she will change her mind and heart and fall in love with you? I am asking the above, but am almost sure the answer is positive.

I do relate to the hurt of being wanted for sex but not for love.

You mentioned having “so many complicated emotions all at once”- maybe it will help you to share about these complicated emotions you are experiencing. I will be glad to read more from you and continue our conversation when I am back to the computer in about 12 hours from now.

I hope you feel better soon!

anita