Dear Gaia:

(I like it that you are addressing your posts to me the way you do, by the way).

Regarding the habits you mentioned, first thing to do in the effort of changing them is to accept them, meaning, to stop hating them and hating yourself for performing these habits.

Your habit of daydreaming is about feeling better, taking a break from the suffering you mentioned earlier. Have empathy for yourself for suffering so much that you need to daydream so much.

Have empathy for yourself that you feel so  lonely that you need to stalk your crush; that you are so distressed that you split your hair. Don’t hate yourself for these things, have empathy for yourself instead.

This change is about changing your attitude from self hate to self empathy. This change of attitude will take time and you will get better at it, but for now, consider it and let me know what you think/ feel about it.

anita