Dear Elizabeth:

Three days ago you wrote: “I couldn’t tell if this was a problem within me and he was the right person- or perhaps he was just simply the wrong person”

(the problem within you being: “In  my life whenever I get close to someone I lose interest and want to run away and always do… I get deathly scared of relationship commitment”)

So I asked you: “Can you make a list of concerns you had about him not being the right man for you?” -I asked so to try to figure out if the problem was your deathly fear of getting close to someone or if it was that he was wrong for you (or a combination).

In your recent post, the answer to my question listed that

* “He was a passive person”.

* “my friends and family did not think we were right for each other, that we were too  different”

I need to understand better, therefore I ask:

1. Can you explain to me what you mean by him being a passive person, a few examples perhaps?

2. What did your friends and family say to you about him; what about him was not right for you, in their minds?

anita