Dear Mona:

Like I wrote to you in your previous thread, you got to know him better. You rarely met him in person, as this relationship of one year was predominantly long distance. You thought of him as your partner, even though there was no partnership beyond an online communication. And that online communication was clearly lacking, you didnt really know him well.

He told you that his purpose for his trip to his home country was to save his brother from drowning, that all his time, focus and energy was going to helping his brother, saving his brother’s life, and therefore he didn’t have the time or the energy to communicate with you with any regularity or at length. And yet, he did find the time, the focus and energy to enage with socal media, to post flirty messages on this woman’s Facebook wall (“If the coronavirus doesn’t take you out, can I?”), and to communicate with her “on and off after the breakup” with you. Still in his home country, saving his brother from drowning.

“I’m now focusing on moving on and if anyone has any tips and advice for kick starting the process, or any helpful words for me in support it would be much appreciated!”-

– learn from your experience with this man, do not hand a man the title “my partner” as easily as you handed this man that title. Get to know the man first before trusting him to be honest and deserving of your trust. You will  be saving a whole lot of your time and energy this way. See to  it that your future true life partner is present in your life in-person. That he doesn’t believe (like your recent ex “partner”) that it is okay to leave any relationship at any time, for any reason, without even bothering to state a reason. You will proceed to  make better choices and a better life for yourself if you learn from your past experiences, and this is one to learn from.

In this time of social distancing, it is difficult to socialize with others off line. So keep posting here, communicate with others online, take walks outdoors (away from people), watch movies, take hot or cold showers, read books, do what will be helpful for you to survive this difficult time (difficult for you personally because of this relationship that meant a lot to you at one time, and difficult collectively, due to the Coronavirus crisis), and let us all come  out of this difficult time healthier and wiser.

anita