Dear Gwen:

Gwen: “Is it ok to live alone, and leave all relatives including my father behind?”

anita: Yes, it is ok, it is better than ok- it’s the right thing to do!

I already wrote this to you in previous posts, and at length, but you didn’t hear me.

You are not hearing my voice; you are hearing the angry, blaming, threatening voices of your father and relatives, telling you: you heartless, non-filial, selfish girl! You owe your father your life, and if you don’t give him the rest of your life, we will brand you Permanently Bad and will never allow you back into our family!

Over a month ago, March 14, I wrote you a post about Slavery and Involuntary Servitude. You are welcome to read it; you are welcome to look up testimonies of slaves and involuntary servants from any part of the world, current  or at any time in history- hear their voices.

All that you gave your father/ all that he took from you, and all that he will take from you, will never enough for your father/relatives to say: that’s enough, Gwen, you are a good girl, good enough to be set free: go and live your life as if it belonged to you!

Do you want the rest of your life to be that of a slave, held captive forevermore by false guilt, or do you want to be a free woman?

anita

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