Dear periwinkle123:

You are welcome. “How do I get that emotional intensity back in my current experience”- I don’t know if it is something you or anyone can do: to get back a feeling or an intensity of a feeling. People try to do that by taking drugs, or sky diving, but I don’t recommend drugs and I don’t encourage sky diving.

Try to be okay with how you feel, don’t aim at feeling something different.

“I want to be really happy and focused on the love I have in my life now”- you can choose to focus on your relationship and make it the healthiest relationship possible, loving and healthy, one to benefit you and him.

But focusing on feeling “really happy” will bring you the opposite result: feeling dissatisfied, always comparing what you feel with an ideal of happiness-ever-after.

Happiness/ joy is a temporary feeling, it cannot be maintained because joy is a neural and hormonal excitation that the brain/ body cannot endure for long.

Is my post making sense to you?

anita