If he happens to contact me when I’m free (which is not that often) and I feel like seeing him, I will, but right now I just find him less attractive becasue of all of this, especially since he has a child himself (without custody though) and should really understand this after a year of us seeing each other.

This is your answer, Rikki. I am sorry I misunderstood your Plan A, Plan B, my point remains that he may not ever be able to change. He may be a spur of the moment person, his desires above other’s realities. We each have to decide how much giving up of our own agency we want to do. Sometimes people like this are self absorbed or free spirits. This may clash with our own personalities. Maybe we find enough connectedness and similarity that we can accept and look past these annoyances. Maybe it is a really big deal. You know this man, you know how self absorbed or free spirit he is, and you know yourself and what you feel you can put up with.