Dear Juanita:

I apologize- I forgot that on Aug 9 I wrote to you that I will respond further the day after. Every day since I thought you were very busy and that you will post when you are not as busy.

I want to respond to your Aug 9 post first: I appreciate you being as understanding as you are about expressing empathy for me, “I will do my best to keep my expressions plain and would like to encourage you to correct any comments you feel to be overly emotional in order to help me get a better feeling of where you stand in dealing with empathy and emotional vocabulary… I am a very heart-guided person, and naturally tend to be poetic and emotional when I feel things like inspiration, empathy, etc.”-

– true, I have a problem with overly emotional expressions, verbal, facial.. makes me feel uncomfortable. I didn’t realize it as much as I do now, because of our communication. Thank you for being as understanding, sensitive and .. for being the heart-guided person that you are.

I don’t have a favorite rose, and I don’t know much about varieties of roses, unlike you (it fits with you being emotionally expressive, comfortable with expressing  empathy and affection, and I- not so much!). Interesting, talking about roses, yesterday was the hottest day this summer by far, and the aroma of the rose bushes right outside my door was intense.

Regarding your post today, good to read that you are happy with your therapist who is not only very nice but effective, activating you toward new and positive understanding and realisations, and that she gives you homework every session, that she seems very motivated to help you is very encouraging.

This is an amazing piece of news: your husband will be moving back to the house where you live for financial reasons and because he wants to give the relationship with you another chance. You spent more time with him recently, speaking a lot, because the two  of you attended to your dog’s health together. You wrote that he was “a very good and kind husband for the first 6-7 years” of the relationship, until other people tried to ruin your lives together, if I understand correctly. Those other people’s actions made him angry and he took it out on you. But recently he “acts like his gentle old self again, and you can see now that he improved his awareness of his problem behaviors. You expect to find out if he “really changed inside” once he moves in with you.

This is a big piece of news!

anita