Dear Laelithia:

You are welcome. I will reply to you further in the morning, in about 10 hours from now. But for now, a partial reply: I suggested 4 dates so to not overwhelm you with a bigger number of pre-sex dates. Once you put a man on a pedestal, once you are invested in the Fantasy, 2 pre-sex dates will be difficult to actualize, so I doubled that number. More than 4 will be better.

As far as this man being a relationship material that you may have destroyed- he was still into dating after becoming intimately involved with you, so he was not that much of a relationship material. A man who would be into dating you exclusively, no longer considering dating others, would be quality relationship material. If you have let him know (pre-sex) that you will not date a man unless he is not dating other women, then you would have been able to know if he was to become  relationship quality.

I wish I had a better answer for you that would put your mind to rest. Good night, Laelithia.

anita

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