Dear marta:

On Aug 7, you asked me: “Do you have any advice for me on how to deal with all of this, it would be really helpful”-

Having read your recent post, this is my advice:

1) Do not visit HOCD forums and no longer read about HOCD.

2) Do not watch/ look at/ read anything pornographic.

3) See a medical doctor (MD) so to be evaluated for  OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Behavior.

4) Make an appointment with a psychotherapist who specializes in OCD (if diagnosed by the MD).

* I understand that you are a minor, and that your mother is religious and you don’t want to tell her about the sexual nature of your obsessions. Well, you don’t have to share with her that you suffer from obsessions and what the obsessions are about. Tell her instead that you suffer from anxiety and that you would  like to see a doctor for your anxiety. (Anxiety is what fuels OCD, and you did express that you suffered from anxiety before the current obsessions)

* Here is what causes me to think that you suffer from OCD: “I can’t stop thinking about.. I’m just overthinking it… Before all of this started I have had a lot of problems with stress, overthinking and analyzing every detail in my life… Maybe all of this is because of my overthinking.. I analyze everything“.

* When you watch or read anything pornographic, at times you feel sexually aroused (“I even try to read books to see if I’m aroused”). Your sexual arousal is feeding the sexual nature of your obsessions. When you post in public forums about your sexual thoughts- you are arousing yourself and you are arousing some of those who read your posts, particularly those who identify themselves as HOCD people.

By arousing yourself and others, you are feeding and strengthening your obsessions of the sexual nature. Sexual obsessions whatever they are- are not healthy, stop feeding and strengthening what is unhealthy.

anita

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