Kelly:

You shared that you are a married woman, grateful for your marriage to a man who gives you emotional stability. And yet, 3 years ago (if not earlier)  you were looking for a fling and proceeded to have a 3 year affair with another man. You ended that affair because your lover was disrespectful to you. Most recently, you asked him if the two of you can be friends and he said that he wasn’t sure. His answer “hurt so bad”. You asked: “Why on earth can’t I let go?”.

I am assuming you asked why you can’t let go of your lover. I figure it is difficult for you to let go of your lover of 3 years because you formed an emotional attachment to  him.

If you are married to a decent man who is faithful to you, and who trusts you to be faithful to him, and for three years you terribly disrespected your husband, then I imagine that you have a reason to betray his trust so terribly, to have sex with another man, then clean up and go home to your decent, faithful, trusting husband. I don’t know what it is: anger at your husband perhaps, or just a cold-hearted disregard..?

anita