Mia is was great reading your story and I’m glad Anita has helped you in a lot of ways, with dealing with your emotions.

From a legal standpoint, if your boyfriend has been in contact with you via-text message and never used the words ” please don’t ever contact me again, or please stay away from me.” you are not harassing or stalking him. I highly recommend looking up harassment/stalking laws to get the right behavior definition of it. If this boyfriend of yours is sending you flowers, messages and all, you don’t have anything to worry about from a legal standpoint and from what I have read on this thread, you’re fine and in the clear but once you or him are willing to accept any forms of gifts and mutual communication(s) – harassment/stalking doesn’t exist here. I don’t see any kind of behavior of yours, as stalking or harassment. Now, in the future, if he decides to cut all contact with you, doesn’t text message you anymore, starts ghosting you and most importantly asks you in person, text or in writing ” Please do not contact me, in any way, shape or form anymore.”  Then I highly suggest you STAY AWAY from him. Even someone’s actions will tell you, all you need to know already.

You made your peace but if the communication has been mutual, legally you’re not breaking any laws. You can always speak to your therapist about all this too but also create some personal boundaries for yourself as well. As far as, what is healthy communication with someone and what becomes un-healthy and obsessive. I wish you the best of luck darling, stay positive, stay strong and if this online boyfriend turns out hat he isn’t for you, know that there are millions of other people out there compatible for you and right for you. It’s not the end of the world, just lifes way of telling you, that there’s another chapter awaiting you.

Sending you so much positivity, love and light!