Dear James:

Some people are impulsive: they change their behavior (what they say and what they do) according to how they feel at the moment, without thinking about what is right and wrong to do/ without thinking about consequences.

Let’s look at her changing feelings and changing behavior during the call: she called you because she felt stressed about the other guy/ her love-interest (“She then called me and sounded a little stressed”)

-> “she vented and told me…”, venting is a behavior and it relieved her stress, made her feel better -> she feels even better, “laughed and joked”

-> feeling calmer and being in a good mood, she feels amorous/ sexual, and she flirts with you (you are now her love-interest)-> she offers you, “if you ever want to do fwb stuff or have some fun let me know”.

Do you know her to be impulsive or is her recent impulsivity uncharacteristic of her?

anita

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