* Dear Tim: Welcome back to the forums. If you want to criticize my input to Moomin- you have done the what it takes: you addressed me and proceeded to criticized my input to her. If you want to help Moomin, then address her and offer her your perspective/beliefs/ life experience without mentioning me and criticizing my input to her. Neither one of us needs more criticism in our lives when it is not necessary (you can fully express yourself to one member without criticizing another member).

anita