This is very interesting take on this so I have to ask a couple of questions of you?

Do you think she is indeed engaging, or was engaging in, sexual affairs with other men? And, if so, why? Because if this were the case it would truly flip things on their head as to how I view my friend and how she presents herself.

You have to understand that, according to her, her husband cheated on her a couple of times which is what lead to where they currently are. And when she talked about being involved with others again it seemed pretty clear she meant in any way shape or form. She seemed pretty adamant on not being involved in any type of relationship until her marriage is officially over. And I know it’s fairly common for people to be in marriages for years that our loveless without getting involved with others people.

The only way she could have been engaging in sexual relationships would have to be totally on the down low. I was talking to her several times per week, her husband works from home, she is starting a new business and she seems to spend most of her additional time with her kids.  On top on that, as I mentioned, her and her husband hold themselves out as a normally married couple.  Basically she would need to be living what amounts to a double life.

Also, why would our friendship have caused her “stress”?  Up until she started to distance everything was going great – in fact things were even on a “high note.” She clearly had been enjoying what she was getting from me and I hadn’t changed my behavior so nothing I was doing was causing stress in fact I think he viewed  our friendship as a safe space.

And she didn’t actually “end” our friendship. She, made a point of saying she wanted to take “break” because she didn’t want to walk away from a friendship that was so important to her And, in her last email she said she never wanted our friendship to change and to go back to being casual and relaxed friends. So it seems to me that on the one hand she doesn’t want to walk on our  friendship permanently but she  wants to keep distance – if that makes sense

Here’s one last “crazy” thought I have. Is it possible that my friend actually does  have feelings for me and because she thinks there is a potential for something down the road she doesn’t want to take a risk of sabotaging that by allowing things to go further with us or giving me a “front row seat” to her dating?

I know in my bones that there was a very strong connection happening between us – one I haven’t felt in years. I don’t believe this was all manufactured on my end. So I could see how this would make her very uncomfortable.  Because, honestly, the quickest way for her to let me know she had no feelings for me would be to tell me she is dating.

Also, I have this feeling that if I start directly engaging with her again as a regular friend –   maybe stop emailing her and just start texting and calling again like nothing happened I might start getting responses from her. For some reason I just feel like she just wants to  not openly acknowledge anything. And now I just had another “click” as I write this.

In the email in which she asked for her “break” she did acknowledge how close we had gotten but she didn’t want to think about that right now. She even said that she couldn’t have things become “weird” between us no but maybe later. I  found these odd things to say at the time but this back and forth with you Anita is starting to bring some clarity.

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