Dear miyoid:

I read your recent post- no worries, it is not too long: feel free to post at any length, anytime. I trust that the very intelligent and resourceful TeaK will reply to your responses to her post soon.

I have one comment on this quote: “the care and support/ love that my boyfriend offers is not enough.. I need more and more. Every time he acts kindly to me, I feel that longing over and over again. I desperately need that attention, but I have hard time receiving that attention”-

– your childhood experience of care, support and love was hugely lacking, and so, a huge longing, or craving for care, support and love was born in you. This craving cannot be satisfied: it either lies dormant for a while, or it awakens. When you are given some care, the care does not satisfy the craving, it awakens it.

anita