@NBC you’re welcome. I’ll keep posting as long as someone needs help and it’s within my capacity. I hope you got something out of this and are moving towards healing and growing.

I really do hope the case with your B is now closed for you. I hope you realise chewing on it for this amount of time can only be detrimental to your mental health. Just like chewing gum, can cause ulcers in the stomach. Chewing on the past can cause sores in our minds and soul.

For you I had hoped your B would undergo a reformation because you had held onto hope for so long. You did form a sincere emotional connection with him. Love on its own is never enough.

You said you don’t wake up or go to sleep, with him on your mind. But he is there somewhere even if at the back, it’s enough to make you still care, enough to make you want to dissect, because he’s made an impact. It’s usually the insidious nature of those thoughts at the back of our mind that can make them so dangerous. You need to decide if he is worth all this energy you expend.

Prior to your meeting it could have swung either way but I hope now you are fully aware and able to look at it objectively.

The only thing that matters is your latest interaction and information you garnered. The guy has taken no accountability, he is supposedly dating someone else. You deserve a man who can step up and apologise sincerely, who wants to rectify his mistakes, who wants to grow and be with you and wants to marry you. B proved in his latest encounter he doesn’t. So don’t let him take up any amount of headspace, chuck him out of your mind entirely girl!