Morning Sammy, Thank you again for the detailed reply, I do appreciate your time in writing this,cagain everything you said is correct and the cold truth.

In response to your suggestion of the approach for a final rejection this is not route I wish to take, it does make sense but I just can’t bring myself to do that at this time, I’ve already sent a message after the meet up and not willing to look desperate anymore, I’ve said my piece and if don’t hear from her then that is answer enough  I’m not going to lie and say I’m not secretly hoping it’s not the end but I’m being realistic with myself and not clinging to that and I am prepared to move on in my own way. You are right as easy as it would be to be soft and have welcoming arms if the scenario does arise I’m not going to be so easy about it and will say exactly what you said in deserving better and setting boundaries and if that’s not good enough then I’m not accepting what I’m being given and happy to walk away with knowing it’s her loss.

Also I know what your saying with going out in another date without fully healing first, I’m not looking at this as a cure and i would be transparent and upfront about how I feel to avoid hurting anyone as I know how it feels, I may even feel different in a month anyway as I’m going through ever changing emotions at the moment so again not looking to far forward but something to think about.

Please don’t think I’m shelving your advice, I really appreciate you taking the time you have to post it, I will certainly read that post over multiple times so it sticks in my mind, I’ve only had the one long term relationship prior to this so not that experienced in dealing with this, the way I am sometimes I just have to learn the hard way regardless of how much it hurts, I do know that after time though it will get better and I would have learned a lot about how to deal with these scenarios.

I’ll be sure to post an update on how things are going and if i need to vent out anymore thoughts and I do really appreciate the responses so thank you.