so my husband has stood up to his parents and married me against their will which i respected but nowadays things seem turmoil and its only kicked up a week ago otherwise when someone criticises me to him we get into a fight. not sure why they do that. im the one thinking to separate though he hasnt got the guts to do it, he doesnt want to let his family down and show them that they were right from the start. re a job, im looking for one soon i just took a break as it was a redundancy and finance isnt an issue. but his friends say im lazy and dont want to find a job etc etc. the comments just come in and it affects him badly. my husband called me inferior last night, i dont even know why. but seems similar to your cousin there. we are due to move house which is out of the area where his family and friends live but unfortunately it is still possible for him to see them as its only 20 minutes away by car. and yeah all this stress is not good for my health i have a chronic illness and to be honest it is making me miserable alot!