Dear Peace,

thanks for explaining a bit more. That was truly a traumatic experience, your first bf was definitely a psychopath. Just the fact that he told you that you need to pay him back, when he was actually living at your place almost for free, and you took care of him while he was sick – despicable! I am glad you managed to stand up on your feet again and that you’ve learned a lesson from that experience!

“may be thats what attracts these guys are that i wont be ( burden)dependent on them in any way ,and still they can spend good time without investing much (as i dont expect for beautiful expensive gifts from them)”

Yes unfortunately it does seem like that. And you’re willing to help them and even sacrifice yourself for them, while they hardly contribute anything. It’s almost a free ride for them…

So I guess this could be another lesson for you – not to get involved with men who’d try to use you. One example would be not to date men who want to move in immediately with you, because they don’t have a place to stay. Or not to give them money for their financial troubles. So, create some precautions and boundaries before you get more deeply involved with them.