Anita,

Since last March I have started a mood stabilizer called Lamtrogine that has really improved my mental and emotional health.  I am doing great at work and have been in a healthy relationship for the past 6 months.  My outbursts and how I handle the situation with my ex husband has improved.

I’m not sure how to explain my  toxic situation with him because there are so many stories/examples/arguments.  I think the best thing to do is give you 2 examples.  the first deals with how he treats me now that he is in a serious relationship.  The relationship started last January. This incident occurred last summer – July? not sure.

Ex stated to me that he needed to pick up our daughter early to take her to an end of the season softball party with the other players.  Because of COVID  no parents can attend, just coaches and players.  I arrive with the kids to our drop location.  His girlfriend and her son are in the vehicle.  I ask him what’s going on since he said no one else can attend the party.  He stated “it’s for family only. So Amy and I are taking the kids.”

The 2nd example occurred the beginning of this week.  We only communicate via email which was my idea. I found out that he is going away on vacation for 10 days in May.  I inquired about this and the kids since he will be gone.  He stated that his girlfriend, we can refer to her as “A” is keeping the kids.  I stated that is not acceptable.  If one custodial parents is gone on vacation etc, the other parent has the children.  He kept saying that it was too much for me, she was fine to watch them, she knew their schedule. He stated they already had this set up.  I stated that I will keep them 2  additional days and “A” can keep them the remaining 2 days.  I stated in the future they will stay with me if he is gone.  I did not receive a reply from him.